A message to the single mommy's ❤️
Updated: Feb 11, 2020
Hi everyone! I have been truly touched by all the emails and messages I have received from other single mothers!I love hearing all of your stories and am truly humbled and happy that a lot of you look to me for advice. you have all inspired me to share my history so here I am writing this little message to all of you.
I became a single mother when Alejandra was barely two months old, throwing a pity party for myself while living in my mother house in Colombia. Meanwhile, her father became a regular at the local bars and was going on trips with his friends every other weekend. We both were young but I remember thinking it was so unfair that he could just break up our family and wasn't there for me. then go back to living his life the way he did (pre-children) while my world completely revolved because I wasn't prepared for having a baby.
Finding someone new was the last thing on my mind. 1 months after I told him to moved out, my heart was completely broken I had my hands FULL with love for him after 5 years together. So funny because he said you’ll be 18 & divorced with a kid…no one will ever want you!”
HA! ( side note: you’re never stuck!) being overwhelmed and extremely angry, with him after all those years together and only at the age of 17 years I felt guilty and blamed myself for not giving my kid the life I had always dreamed of giving one day. I felt guilt that she wasn't growing up with not only parents who weren’t together, but parents who couldn’t get along, I quickly realized that so many of the things I worried about and felt guilty over were out of my control. Because I was brave enough to tell him to get out of our lives, I decided instead of being embarrassed of my failed relationship and ashamed of being a single mother, I was going to OWN it! Being the best mother you can be , working hard and giving your kids the BEST life possible has nothing to do with your relationship status and you don’t have to be happily married to have a “picture perfect family.”
In all honesty, the 8 and a half years I’ve spent as a single mom it's been such a journey for me and Ale and I think the best years of my entire life. I learned so much about myself as a mother and as a person. I’ve created a special bond with Alejandra Like best friends. I am so proud of everything we have been through together and even more proud of who she's have grown into as individual.
Off course I would like to find someone, not to complete me, but to add more love and happiness to mine and Alejandra's lives.
I found that with Matt I feel like the absolute luckiest girl in the world, but circumstances didn't work.
But just to have met someone like him I feel thankful already (even in the craziest of ways). I want someone who truly loves us. ¡Never settle and be patient because your “Man" is out there somewhere!
Now Ale and I have so many memories I will love and cherish forever and ever.
I hope my history other than shared, just inspire you to own it the tittle and be the best mom ever!